Today’s joy was a late afternoon lunch with my best friends. We gossiped about our paramours and other things that are too grown for me to talk about here. We laughed about how my family nearly issued a state-wide search for me on Sunday. (They thought I was missing, kidnapped and left for dead. I was dealing with a dead cell phone and a flat tire, then chugging champagne at tea).
That lengthy lunch gave me the strength I didn’t know I needed. I edited my dissertation. Ran into two guys I once dated without losing my cool. (This area is way too small).
Restoration is so, so very important. And I needed to be restored after a morning in which a series of terrible things went wrong. God knew exactly how to take care of me.
I don’t work well when I’m irritated, pissed off, or frustrated with myself. I need to love myself before I do good work. The moment I relaxed, enjoyed time with my friends, and had a drink, I truly enjoyed writing. I was able to be present and give my work the attention it deserves.
Today, I was reminded that:
if you think you’re amazing, everyone else will as well. (And those who don’t are just haters.) It’s just the truth. When you love yourself, your eyes light up. You suddenly look prettier, feel smarter, more capable. Watch the opportunities fall into your lap.
Don’t wait for someone to love you before you love yourself. Don’t wait for someone to buy you flowers or dinner. You’re a grown woman, reach into your purse and handle your business. That will save you from looking thirsty when a dude finally does buy you flowers. This evening, I took myself out to dinner and read a book, and came back home feeling relaxed and happy. And naturally, my guy friend called. I was able to laugh while on the phone with him because I was already happy with myself and my circumstances.