It’s 6:30 am on Valentine’s Day, so I have a deep desire to eat at least one of the dry, but pretty cupcakes I picked up at Stop and Shop. (They were so cute I couldn’t resist, and the icing is good…). Because it’s my life, I have a cold, and there’s a delayed opening at 11. I teach at 12.
Of course, I’m up early, creating an assignment for my students and blowing my nose with a roll of toilet paper, dressed in a nightgown that would be sexy if I wasn’t also wrapped in a bright green hoodie and not-quite-so-matching head scarf. But then again, nobody is up in here but me and Jesus, and He loves me just as I am.
I have never had a romantic Valentine’s Day. Ever. I never dated anyone during the holiday, being sure to end my relationships well before and begin them after V-Day. So I’ve learned to enjoy my own company. I don’t even bother getting together with friends to bemoan my singleness or their relationships. Why bother? I did that once, looked around the bar, and thought “I could be at home knitting and have more fun.”
Ever since then, I have leaned into the holiday, learning to celebrate all of my relationships. My parents have loved me for 29 + years; my siblings love me; my small coterie of friends love me as well. They have been there for me longer than any of the men I’ve dated and deserve far more consideration at the present moment. God loved me before the foundation of the world…so why should I trip over not getting flowers from one of my gentlemen friends?
You know what I really want to do this Valentine’s Day? Eat buffalo wings and watch Claudine. And maybe Mahogany. Maybe I’ll do an all-black romantic movie day, starting with Anna Lucasta and ending with Something New. If I have a chance to shuffle out of my apartment, I may get a bottle of wine (or three) and eat chocolate.
Perhaps when I’m married, I’ll be excited to celebrate romantic love with my husband. But from where I’m sitting, it’s a great day for me to celebrate all of the love I have for God, family, friends, and myself!
Do something special for someone you love today. And do something awesome for yourself (no guilt allowed!)
HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!