I started celebrating 2015 with a New Year’s brunch in Park Slope. My friends and I packed into an old white BMW convertible and drove down a sunny street, led by the promise of crisp potatoes, strong Bloody Marys and chilled champagne. Three of four of us are staunch feminists, so the pleasant exchange about … Continue reading bad feminism at brunch
2014 was not an easy year. Am I the only one who feels this way? Getting the PhD was not easy. Moving to NY, seemingly on a whim, because God called me to be closer to my family, was not easy. I’ve dealt with imposter syndrome, crazy moments, and straight up haters–people who do their … Continue reading Thank God 2014 is Almost Finished!
I have a nasty confession to make: I can’t read many of the articles related to Ferguson. I was at the gym, standing with other black men when the grand jury verdict came in. We all respectfully dropped our weights and stood around the television broadcasting CNN. It was silent, and there were no subtitles, … Continue reading grieving ferguson
To the man who ruined my birthday celebration, I felt euphoric after leaving the tacky midtown bar with one of my new and close friends in tow. We were looking for a cab that would take us to a rooftop bar. The air was tinged with cigarette smoke and promise, and my feet didn’t hurt … Continue reading to the man who ruined my birthday celebration:
A few weeks ago, I briefly considered not writing. After years of graduate school, I longed for the normalcy of a 9-5. Giving up my writing seemed to be a good, adult decision. I could just pack away my talent, get a ‘real’ job, get married, have some babies, call it a life. In the … Continue reading dangerous artists
1. Find a job you like. Make sure it pays enough for you to enjoy your life. 2. Find a person you like, and date them. Be super watchful. 3. Find a family who loves you–whether they are blood related, old friends, new friends–and stick close to them. 4. Be slow in a fast city … Continue reading 7 lessons from ny
On Facebook, I have seen a few black women friends starting/continuing a ‘gratitude challenge’, where they post three things that they are thankful for. At a time when we see the situation in Ferguson escalating, it makes sense that my friends would do a small challenge to keep their spirits high. Here is my contribution–a … Continue reading black women, resilience, and joy